Why Being Offended Destroys Productivity: Part 3
Being offended is natural, but how you respond to an offense doesn’t have to be. It’s natural to let offense create a divide in a relationship. When we get offended it destroys productivity because we have a difficult time working with the people we are offended by. It also destroys productivity because instead of working on building God’s kingdom we are spending time worrying about, losing sleep over, and talking about an offense.
In part 3 I want to give one more practical idea for being offended.
TRUTH: I may be the source of my own offense. The more convinced I am things should be a certain way, the more often I’ll be disappointed in others.TRUTH: I may be the source of my own offense. The more convinced I am things should be a certain way, the more often I’ll be disappointed in others. Click To Tweet
A major source of anger and offense is control. It’s easy to be controlling and difficult to let go of control. Often progress is slowed or stopped because of controlling leaders. If you are the only person that can do something you are limiting your churches growth. If all the ideas have to be your ideas you are limiting your churches growth. If you are doing it all then you are limiting your churches growth.
You can have growth or you can have control, but you cannot have both.
Progress is often stopped when we become offended and we often become offended because we are control freaks.
Two things to help you let go of control and ultimately become less offended.
- Look at the mountain and not the path to get there. Translation: as long as your team is headed in the right direction it’s okay if they do things differently than you. Let go of control as long as you are ending up at the destination.
- Tell yourself there is more than one way to do something. Literally say it out loud. There is more than one way to almost everything. When you feel yourself holding onto control tell yourself this.
At the end of the day we all get offended by something, but as pastors and church leaders we should learn to respond like Jesus. Being offended is more about us than anything else. Often we are the source of our own offense. Let go of control and you’ll become less offendable.